Every day we are involved in a variety of relationships, each differing in the intensity and degree of closeness they provide us. We may have professional or business relationships with coworkers, the gardener, or your doctor. We also have more informal relationships with people like neighbors or colleagues. Personal relationships however are those that involve some degree of intimacy, sharing, and emotional attachment, family members, friends, spouses or partners.
If someone in your life is causing you distress, perhaps a friend, co-worker, spouse, child...whoever it is, when it starts to affect your energy, happiness, or other relationships, it may be time to get some support.
Whether we are aware of it or not, each person involved in a personal relationship has something at stake. If we didn’t, the relationship wouldn’t be important to us and we wouldn’t react to or become upset with each other. When there is something at stake, ultimately, there is something to lose, whether it’s our pride, the feeling of being loved or any other number of unconscious agendas we bring to the table. Even if you feel you are an unconditional friend or mate, if there are problems in your relationship, there are often expectations not being met. For the most part, the majority of problems we encounter in personal relationships revolve around two specific areas — our expectations of the relationship and the people involved and/or a lack of personal boundaries.
How Do I Know If I Need Help?
When you repeatedly find yourself in the same type of negative relationship, counseling can offer insight and support. If your relationships are causing you stress or impacting your daily life, it’s a sign you may need some help. Even though relationships involve more than one person, ultimately, the only person you can change is you. With the tools and support therapy provides, you can learn to set healthy boundaries and release unrealistic expectations. Oftentimes, simply gaining a new perspective on your own behavior can open the door to healthier and more satisfying relationships.